So Disappointing

[CohenCottage]

Ok, I need to vent about something that is totally not decorating related and probably silly. Let me preface the story by saying that I work at least 6 days a week at 2 jobs for 12-14 hours per day. That is by choice, but it is still a lot of work. So I don't get much time off with friends or to do normal "summer" stuff. Today, I was supposed to go to the Country Club pool with a friend whose mom has a membership, and we were going to hang out from about 10 to 12 with her 3 yo twins. I've got training appointments this afternoon, so it was really the only "weekend" thing I was doing. This morning I got a text from her saying "no pool today", and I was really disappointed. Then I found out it's b/c she had too much to drink last night! Now I'm pi$$ed! Ok, thanks for listening...

[Heather]

Ahh yes, small business owner with little life - been there! Why not treat yourself to something you wouldn't normally do but wish you had the time one day to do!

[CohenCottage]

Yes, hubs and I are going to have breakfast at an outdoor cafe with 2 of the dogs and then go on a hike...Thanks!

[mac78]

Sorry it didn't work out. I know how disappointing it is when we are looking forward to doing something.

[CohenCottage]

We ended up having an excellent time at brunch and the lake, so it was still a fun morning. Then I had a client evaluation and a going home lesson for our board and train puppy. He's been so much fun...we are really going to miss him!

Marie, how was the party? I can't wait to find out!

[Lynzee]

I would have been pissed, too. Glad to hear there was a happy ending! :)

[cheapdiva]

CC -
I hear ya! I'm working very hard at not letting selfish people ruin things for me. I have just naturally gotten to the point of always having a Plan B because things like this seem to be the norm in this day and age. My biggest gripe is people who don't RSVP either until the last minute or at all - because they're afraid they might get a better invite.

At 53 I am finally discovering how to let some of this stuff go. It's not you, it's them. If she's a good friend find out why she had too much to drink (bad day? with 3 yr. old twins, that could be it! or is this typical behavior?) and let her know you were disappointed. If this is typical for her (either the drinking or canceling of plans last minute) - then don't rely on her. If she's a good friend who had a one time slip-up, forget it and move on. Neither of you will benefit from it and she is probably feeling pretty guilty.

[Gigi]

Glad your day worked out for you! I know it must have been disappointing- I would have been- but delighted to do something else fun.

That's what is sooooooooooo nice about these boards- we are here to vent and be "listeners" too. ;)

[memmey]

Now see.....I guess I am not as generous as some of the sweet friends here. I would not be so available next time she calls .
For me, brunch and a walk sounds heavenly.

[ChapterTwo]

I usually give people (and especially friend type people!) the benefit of the doubt. Unless she makes a continual habit of this type of thing, I would have to cut her some slack and sort of worry about WHY she had too much to drink.

I'd probably invite her out to have coffee sometime and see how it goes.

[RoseMary]

I'm glad you had a good day:)! Sometimes things work out better when the original plans are changed!

[yarborough house]

That used to happen to me all the time. Like I've said my neighborhood is jr high so these people are all about themselves and how to make themselves happy and cool - no matter at who's expense.
We used to do progressive dinners here for Christmas time. I helped organize it at the beginning - and bunch of us also go to a lady crafters open house every holiday season. We always plan them on different days. Well this past year - no go. I had told the girl in charge of planning the dinner what day we all would be at the open house so could she plan the dinner on another day - she said no problem. I had all the ladies lined up to go to the open house (it is a friend of mine) and then about a week out they changed the dinner date to our day - and all my so called friends baled on me. I asked the girl in charge of the dinner why change it when we had plans and she basically said - oh well your loss. What a bitch. We were friends up till then.

I decided at that point that life is too short for fake people. And that I have done so much for all these people that I thought were friends - i make bday cards and gifts, invite them to the pool, watch their kids, have bbqs, etc.. but it hit me that they never returned the gestures in anyway. So, I have realized that they are neighbors that is all. I am "friendly" with them- I say hi, and such but don't go out of my way to do things "for" them anymore.

I treasure my time and would rather spend it with those that care - that being family and true friends.

I am sorry you were upset but in retrospect it seems it was a good thing as your time with your hubby and dogs sounds like you had a much better time with someone you know cares for you.

[Lisa S]

Gee Tammy ~ if you lived next to me, I'd reciprocate! You sound heavenly. One of my neighbors is a "medical marijuana grower" and the other is a junk hoarder. What I wouldn't give for progressive dinners and play dates! We have lots of wonderful times with good friends, but none of them are neighbors. There can be a special bond when you like the people who live next door. Maybe it'll work out in our next lives... :rolleyes: